Philosophies On Love

Recently, a friend of mine went through a break up with her boyfriend that turned out rather nasty. The interesting part was after a while (a few hours) of fuming at him, she wanted him back; for all the wrong reasons. From what I gather, she doesn't want to feel or be alone.

I think it's rather disheartening to see people who view themselves as lonely or incomplete unless they're with someone "special". What then were you before you discovered relationships? I doubt you felt alone. I think moving from one bad relationship to another just to fill that "hole" inside is just not the way to do things. I guess we're not to blame because a lot of our views regarding love and relationships are formed by the world.

The best place for love is no other than God. Why? Because His love is unconditional. It's the best there is! We might say that we can love unconditionally but in truth, we cannot for we are just humans and in some way or the other, our love is flawed. In the Bible, it clearly states that "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."

I cannot think of any better description of love. I'm not trying to be holier than thou here but I feel that if one does not have the capacity to want to try and love someone that way, I don't think you should want to start a relationship with that person. Relationships are all about giving in my opinion, but giving in a good way. Relationships are supposed to build the other person up and to come alongside them in love and support. The other person should want to do the same for you if he/she loves you. By giving to each other, each benefits because they each receive in return. I'm not saying that there is no compromise; of course there is because love is patient.

I don't think all of us are meant to find the other half but instead, those people are meant to find their completeness in God. Until you find the right person, I think the best thing is just to rest in God's perfect love for us. That's my thoughts on love anyways.